Ways To Get Your Husband Back

Sorry can be the HARDEST thing to say for your spouse — I am sure you agree!

By saying so, you’re admitting that you have messed up and have hurt among the people you love the most. It’s never easy.

However, the thing is, we are all human and most of us make mistakes. And unfortunately, sometimes we make mistakes which really hurt our partners.

When this happens, it’s our job apologize and to take responsibility, EVEN when your mistake is so BIG you feel like there’s nearly “too much” to apologize for.

It is a fact that the deeper the hurt, the longer the healing process will require.

Continue below to find out what these steps are, and don’t hesitate to share your thoughts and experiences in the end. Ways To Get Your Husband Back

 

5 Step to Say “I Am Sorry” and Really Mean It. Ways To Get Your Husband Back

 

1. Forgive yourself

You could be thinking something like: “How on earth can I ever forgive myself?” Or “How do an apology start with ME?

However there are several reasons why it is necessary to attempt to make peace with yourself once you’ve made a mistake.

To start with, dwelling on remorseful and self-loathing thoughts will use all of your emotional energy up.

This isn’t going to be helpful for you or your marriage, since it keeps the focus on the PROBLEM, rather than what you can do to repair it. If you can accept the mistake you have made, you will have the ability to focus your energy on what you could do to make up for it.

Allow me to be clear here. By forgiving yourself, you’re not clearing yourself of any blame… You freely admit that you have made a mistake.

However, you are also acknowledging that the behavior you’ve done wrong does not mean you are a bad person as a whole and you’ve got the chance to be your very best self from now on…

 

 

2. Apologize to your spouse and take full responsibility

In regards to saying sorry, the sooner the better. But, an apology has to be said with genuine sincerity and feeling to be effective.

So you need time before you apologize to your partner, take this moment to calm down. An sarcastic or angry apology will only make the situation even more worse.

As hard as it is, look into your spouse’s eyes when you go to confer with them.

For instance; “I’m so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you had been looking forward to going out and how disappointed and hurt you have felt when I came home late”.

Last, never never NEVER say “I’m sorry” and follow it up with a “but” or an excuse.

For instance: “I am so sorry I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I understand how much you had been looking forward to heading out and how disappointed and hurt you have to’ve felt when I came home. BUT the reason why I forgot about dinner is because YOU didn’t remind me this morning. You know I’m busy with work and find it difficult to keep track of what’s happening occasionally”.

This is going to make your apology meaningless, and even imply that you’re BLAMING your partner — which is just going to push them further away.

So take full responsibility for your actions… don’t attempt to reevaluate your error to make yourself feel better (because believe me, it won’t work!) And concentrate just on YOUR actions, not your spouse’s. Ways To Get Your Husband Back

 

3. Make promises for the future

Come up with a strategy to make certain your mistake won’t be repeated in the future and communicate this to your partner. Just make sure any promises you make could be followed up on.

For instance:

“I will have absolutely no further contact with that person. I will delete him/her out of my phone, Facebook, Twitter, and will let you know immediately if he/she ever tries to get in touch with me.

I am happy to give you access to all my account and my telephone if this would be helpful to you|If this would be helpful to you, I am happy to give you access. I promise to keep in communication with you about what I am doing and from now on I will always be at home when I say I will.

I truly wish to make this work and will do whatever it takes. I can clear my schedule outside of work so I could spend as much time with you as possible — as much time as you are comfortable with right now.” Ways To Get Your Husband Back

 

4. Accept your spouse’s reaction

A frequent premise that a partner often makes is that as soon as they have apologized, their husband or wife should stop being angry or sad and give forgiveness to them.

And when this does not happen, the apologizing spouse stinks and says something along the lines of: “I’ve just apologized! What more to you want me to do?! Why can not you just accept it and move on?!”

The thing is, you can ask your husband or spouse for their forgiveness, but you can not FORCE them to forgive you. Whether they do or not is their decision.

Therefore don’t expect anything from your spouse right now.

Yes, you’re making yourself vulnerable and yes, it may feel excruciating being met angry words or by your partner’s silence. This truly is the HARDEST part about saying “I am sorry”.

So avoid acting defensively AT ALL COSTS, despite the fact that this might be your initial instinct — as it will only undo the good you have just accomplished by apologizing.

And now is certainly not the time to start pointing fingers and trying to get back in your partner for anything they’ve done.

All you can do now, as hard as it can be, is give your spouse time to come to terms with your apology and also see for themselves the changes on your own behavior. Forgiveness will come with time. Ways To Get Your Husband Back

 

5. Follow your apology up with positive actions

Saying sorry is important, but it is not sufficient on its own to heal your spouse’s hurt and move. It’s the ACTIONS that follow that really do most of the relationship fixing.

Apologies need to be backed up with favorable changes in behaviour, as otherwise your partner will eliminate faith in you and will end up more hurt and betrayed consequently.

If you have betrayed your partner in some manner, the secret is to be ABSOLUTELY transparent with your spouse in future — do not attempt to hide or cover anything up.

Keep the lines of communication open and be fair about everything — where you are, what you are doing, that you are with, what you are spending… EVERYTHING.

This may appear counter-intuitive, however, the truth is that your partner is very likely to be feeling very vulnerable right now, and their trust in you has been ruined. So in order for their trust to be regained, you have to leave literally zero doubts in their own mind.

And remember, one huge gesture of flowers and chocolates after you’ve messed up is nice, but it’s not likely to get exactly the identical impact as constant small steps to improve your behaviour and reveal your partner how much you appreciate them.

Even if your partner does not accept your apology straight away, DO NOT GIVE UP. By continuing to show how sorry you are through loving actions, you’ve got the best hope of regaining their trust and love. Ways To Get Your Husband Back

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