Prayer To Get My Ex Husband Back

Sorry can be the HARDEST thing to say for your partner — I’m certain you all agree!

By saying this, you’re admitting that you have messed up and have hurt one of the people you love the most. It is never simple.

But the thing is, we are all human and most of us make mistakes. And regrettably, sometimes we make mistakes which really hurt our partners.

When this happens, it’s our job apologize and to take responsibility for our actions, EVEN when your mistake is so BIG you really feel like there’s almost “too much” to apologize for.

It’s a fact that the deeper the hurt, the longer the recovery process will require.

Continue below to learn what these steps are, and feel free to talk about experiences and your own thoughts in the end. Prayer To Get My Ex Husband Back

 

5 Step to Say “I’m Sorry” and Really Mean It. Prayer To Get My Ex Husband Back

 

1. Forgive yourself

You might be thinking something like: “How in the world could I ever forgive myself?” Or “How do an apology start with ME?

However there are numerous reasons why it’s imperative to try to make peace with yourself after you have made a mistake.

First of all, dwelling on thoughts that are self-loathing and remorseful is going to use all of your emotional energy up.

This is NOT going to be useful for your marriage or you, as it keeps the focus on the issue, rather than what you can do to FIX it. If you can accept the mistake you have made, you’ll be able to then focus your energy on what you can do to compensate for it.

Let me be clear here. By forgiving yourself, you’re not clearing yourself of any blame… You openly admit that you’ve made a mistake.

But you are also acknowledging that the behaviour you’ve done wrong does not mean you are a bad person as a whole and you have the opportunity to be your best self from now on…

 

 

2. Apologize to your spouse and accept full responsibility

When it comes to stating sorry, the earlier the better. But, an apology has to be said with genuine sincerity and feeling to work.

So you will need time to calm down until you confer with your partner, take this time. An sarcastic or angry apology will make the situation even more worse.

As hard as it can, look into your partner’s eyes when you go to confer with them.

For instance; “I’m so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you were looking forward to going out and just how disappointed and hurt you must’ve felt when I came home late”.

Last, never never NEVER say “I am sorry” and follow this up with a “but” or an excuse.

For example: “I am so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I understand how much you had been looking forward to going out and how disappointed and hurt you must’ve felt when I came home late. BUT the reason why I forgot about dinner is because YOU did not remind me this afternoon. You know I am busy with work and find it hard to keep track of what’s happening occasionally”.

This will make your apology meaningless, and also imply that you are BLAMING your spouse — which is just going to push them further away.

So accept full responsibility for your actions… Do not try to reevaluate your error to make yourself feel better (because believe me, it won’t work!) And concentrate only on YOUR actions, not your spouse’s. Prayer To Get My Ex Husband Back

 

3. Make promises for the future

Come up with a plan to ensure your mistake will not be repeated in the future and communicate this to your spouse. Make sure any promises you make could be followed upon.

For instance:

“I will have absolutely no further contact with that person. I will delete him/her out of my phone, Facebook, Twitter, and will inform you immediately if he/she tries to get in contact with me.

I am happy to give you access to all my accounts and my telephone if this would be helpful to you|If that would be helpful to you, I’m pleased to offer you open access. I promise to keep in regular communication with you about what I am doing and from today on I will always be at home when I say I will.

I truly want to make this work and will do whatever is needed. I can clear my schedule outside of work so I can spend as much time with you as possible — as much time as you’re comfortable with at this time.” Prayer To Get My Ex Husband Back

 

4. Accept your spouse’s reaction

A frequent assumption that a spouse frequently makes is that when they’ve apologized, wife or their husband should stop being mad or sad and give forgiveness to them.

And when this doesn’t happen, the apologizing spouse explodes and says something along the lines of: “I have just apologized! What more to you want me to do?! Why can’t you just accept it and move on?!”

The thing is, you can ask your husband or spouse for their forgiveness, but you can not FORCE them to forgive you. Whether they do or not is their own decision.

So don’t expect anything from your partner right now.

Yes, you are making yourself vulnerable and yes, it may feel excruciating being met by the silence or angry words of your spouse. This truly is the HARDEST part about saying “I am sorry”.

Therefore avoid acting defensively AT ALL COSTS, despite the fact that this might be your initial instinct — as it will only reverse the good you have accomplished by apologizing.

And now is certainly not the time to start pointing fingers and trying to get back at your spouse for anything they’ve done.

All you can do right now, as hard as it is, is give your partner time to come to terms with your own apology and also see for themselves that the adjustments in your behaviour. Forgiveness will come with time. Prayer To Get My Ex Husband Back

 

5. Follow your apology up with positive actions

Saying sorry is important, but it isn’t enough on its own to heal your spouse’s hurt and move. It is the ACTIONS that follow that actually do the majority of the relationship repairing.

Apologies need to get backed up with positive changes in behavior, as otherwise your spouse will lose faith in you and will end up more hurt and betrayed consequently.

If you’ve betrayed your spouse in some way, the biggest secret is to be ABSOLUTELY transparent with your partner in future — don’t attempt to hide or cover anything up.

Keep the lines of communication open and be fair about what — where you are, what you’re doing, that you are with, what you’re spending… EVERYTHING.

This may appear over-the-top, but the simple truth is that your spouse is very likely to be feeling really vulnerable at the moment, and their hope in you has been ruined. So in order to their hope to be recovered, you have to leave literally no doubts in their own mind.

And keep in mind, one huge gesture of chocolates and flowers after you’ve messed up is fine, but it is not going to have exactly the same impact as constant small steps to improve your behaviour and reveal your spouse how much you appreciate them.

Even if your spouse doesn’t take your apology straight away, DO NOT GIVE UP. By continuing to show how sorry you are through loving actions, you’ve got the best hope of regaining their trust and love. Prayer To Get My Ex Husband Back

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Sorry can be the HARDEST thing to say to your partner — I’m certain you agree!

By saying this, you’re admitting that you have messed up and have hurt one of the people you love the most. It’s never easy.

However, the thing is, we are all human and we make mistakes. And regrettably, sometimes we make mistakes which actually hurt our spouses.

When this occurs, it is our job to take responsibility for our actions and apologize, EVEN when your mistake is so BIG you really feel like there is nearly “too much” to apologize for.

It is a fact that the deeper the hurt, the longer the healing process will take.

Continue below to learn what these steps are, and don’t hesitate to share experiences and your own thoughts at the end. Prayer To Get My Ex Husband Back

 

5 Step to Say “I’m Sorry” and Truly Mean It. Prayer To Get My Ex Husband Back

 

1. Forgive yourself

You could be thinking something like: “How on earth can I ever forgive myself?” Or “How do an apology begin with ME?

But there are numerous reasons why it’s imperative to attempt to make peace with yourself once you’ve made a mistake.

To start with, dwelling on remorseful and self-loathing thoughts is going to use up all of your emotional energy.

This isn’t going to be helpful for your marriage or you, as it keeps the focus on the issue, rather than what you can do to FIX it. If you can accept the mistake you have made, you will have the ability to then focus your energy on what you could do in order to make up for it.

Allow me to be clear here. By forgiving yourself, you’re not clearing yourself of any blame… You openly admit that you have made a mistake.

However, you’re also acknowledging that the behavior you’ve done wrong does not mean you are a terrible person as a whole and you’ve got the chance to be your very best self from now on…

 

 

2. Apologize to your partner and accept full responsibility

In regards to stating sorry, the earlier the better. However, an apology has to be said with feeling and real sincerity to work.

So you need time to calm down before you confer with your partner, take this moment. An sarcastic or angry apology will only make the situation even more worse.

As difficult as it is, look into your spouse’s eyes when you go to apologize to them.

For example; “I am so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I understand how much you were looking forward to going out and how disappointed and hurt you have felt when I came home late”.

Last, never never NEVER say “I am sorry” and follow this up with a “but” or an excuse.

For instance: “I’m so sorry I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you had been looking forward to heading out and how frustrated and hurt you must’ve felt when I arrived home. However, the reason I forgot about dinner is because YOU didn’t remind me this afternoon. You know I am busy with work and find it hard to keep track of what’s going on sometimes”.

This is going to make your apology meaningless, and also imply that you are BLAMING your partner — which is only going to push them farther away.

So accept full responsibility for your actions… Do not try to reevaluate your error to make yourself feel better (because believe me, it will not work!) And focus only on YOUR actions, not your spouse’s. Prayer To Get My Ex Husband Back

 

3. Make promises for the future

Come up with a strategy to ensure your mistake will not be repeated in the future and convey this to your spouse. Make sure any promises you make can be followed up on.

For instance:

“I have absolutely no further contact with that person. I will delete him/her from my phone, Facebook, Twitter, and also will inform you immediately if he/she ever tries to get in touch with me.

I’m pleased to give you open access to all my accounts and my phone if this would be helpful to you|If that would be helpful to you, I am pleased to give you open access to all my account and my telephone. I promise to keep in communication with you and from now on I will always be at home when I say I will.

I really want to make this work and will do whatever it takes. I will clear my schedule out of work so that I could spend as much time with you as possible — as much time as you’re comfortable with right now.” Prayer To Get My Ex Husband Back

 

4. Accept your spouse’s reaction

A common assumption that a spouse often makes is that when they’ve apologized, their husband or wife should stop being sad or angry and give them forgiveness.

And when this doesn’t happen, the apologizing spouse stinks and says something along the lines of: “I’ve just apologized! What more to you want me to do?! Why can not you just accept it and move on?!”

The thing is, you can ask your husband or wife for their forgiveness, but you can’t FORCE them to forgive you. Whether they do or not is their own decision.

Therefore don’t expect anything from your spouse right now.

Yes, you are making yourself vulnerable and yes, it might feel excruciating being met angry words or by your spouse’s silence. This truly is the HARDEST part about saying “I’m sorry”.

So avoid acting defensively AT ALL COSTS, even though this may be your first instinct — as it is only going to reverse the good you have just accomplished by apologizing.

And now is definitely not the time to begin pointing fingers and trying to get back in your partner for anything they’ve done.

All you can do right now, as hard as it will be, is give your partner time to come to terms with your apology and see for themselves that the adjustments on your own behavior. Forgiveness will come with time. Prayer To Get My Ex Husband Back

 

5. Follow your apology up with positive actions

Saying sorry is important, but it isn’t sufficient on its own to heal your partner’s harm and move forward. It is the ACTIONS that follow which actually do the majority of the relationship repairing.

Apologies need to get backed up with favorable changes in behaviour, as otherwise your spouse will eliminate faith in you and also will end up more hurt and betrayed as a result.

If you’ve betrayed your partner in some way, the key is to be ABSOLUTELY transparent with your partner in future — do not try to hide or cover up anything.

Keep the lines of communication open and be fair about everything — where you are, what you are doing, who you’re with, what you’re spending… EVERYTHING.

This might seem over-the-top, but the simple truth is that your partner is very likely to be feeling very vulnerable at the moment, and their trust in you has been ruined. So in order for their hope to be regained, you need to leave literally zero doubts in their mind.

And keep in mind, one big gesture of flowers and chocolates after you’ve messed up is nice, but it’s not likely to have exactly the same effect as continuous small steps to improve your behaviour and reveal your spouse how much you appreciate them.

Even if your spouse does not accept your apology straight away, DO NOT GIVE UP. By continuing to show how sorry you are through loving actions, you have the best hope of regaining their love and trust. Prayer To Get My Ex Husband Back

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