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Sorry can be the HARDEST thing to say for your spouse — I’m sure you all agree!

By saying so, you are admitting that you’ve messed up and have hurt one of the people you love the most. It’s never easy.

But the thing is, we are all human and we ALL make mistakes. And regrettably, sometimes we make mistakes which really hurt our spouses.

When this occurs, it’s our job to take responsibility and apologize, EVEN whenever your mistake is so BIG you feel like there’s almost “too much” to apologize for.

It’s true that the deeper the hurt, the longer the recovery process will take.

Continue below to find out what these steps are, and feel free to talk about experiences and your own thoughts in the conclusion. No Contact To Get Husband Back

 

5 Step to Say “I’m Sorry” and Truly Mean It. No Contact To Get Husband Back

 

1. Forgive yourself

You could be thinking something like: “How in the world could I ever forgive myself?” Or “How can an apology begin with ME?

But there are numerous reasons why it’s necessary to try to make peace with yourself after you’ve made a mistake.

To start with, dwelling on self-loathing and remorseful thoughts is going to use up all of your emotional energy.

This is NOT going to be useful for you or your marriage, since it keeps the focus on the PROBLEM, rather than what you can do to FIX it. If you can accept the mistake you have made, you’ll have the ability to then focus your energy on what you can do to compensate for it.

Allow me to be clear here. By forgiving yourself, you are not clearing yourself of any blame… You openly admit that you’ve made a mistake.

However, you are also acknowledging that the behaviour you have done wrong does not mean you’re a terrible person as a whole and you’ve got the opportunity to be your best self from now on…

 

 

2. Apologize to your spouse and take full responsibility

In regards to saying sorry, the earlier the better. However, an apology has to be said with feeling and genuine sincerity to work.

So you will need time to calm down until you apologize to your spouse, take this moment. An angry or sarcastic apology is only going to make the situation even more worse.

As difficult as it can, look at your partner’s eyes when you go to confer with them.

For example; “I’m so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you had been looking forward to going out and just how disappointed and hurt you must’ve felt when I came home late”.

Lastly, never never NEVER say “I am sorry” and follow it up with a “but” or an excuse.

For instance: “I am so sorry I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you were looking forward to going out and how disappointed and hurt you must’ve felt when I came home. However, the reason why I forgot about dinner is because YOU didn’t remind me this morning. You know I am busy with work and find it difficult to keep track of what is going on sometimes”.

This is going to make your apology meaningless, and also imply that you’re BLAMING your partner — which is just going to push them further away.

So take full responsibility for your actions… Do not attempt to downplay your mistake to make yourself feel better (because believe me, it will not work!) And concentrate only on YOUR actions, not your spouse’s. No Contact To Get Husband Back

 

3. Make promises for the future

Come up with a plan to make certain your mistake won’t be repeated in the future and convey this to your spouse. Just make sure any promises you make could be followed upon.

For instance:

“I will have absolutely no further contact with that person. I will delete him/her out of my phone, Facebook, Twitter, and will let you know instantly if he/she ever tries to get in touch with me.

I’m pleased to give you open access to all my account and my telephone if that would be helpful to you|If this would be helpful to you, I’m happy to offer you open access to every one my accounts and my phone. I promise to keep in communication with you about what I am doing and from now on I will always be at home when I say I will.

I truly wish to make this work and will do anything is needed. I will clear my schedule outside of work so that I could spend as much time with you as possible — as much time as you’re comfortable with right now.” No Contact To Get Husband Back

 

4. Accept your spouse’s reaction

A common assumption that a spouse often makes is that as soon as they’ve apologized, their spouse or spouse should stop being sad or mad and give them forgiveness.

And when this does not happen, the apologizing spouse stinks and says something along the lines of: “I’ve just apologized! What more to you want me to do?! Why can not you just accept it and move on?!”

The thing is, you can ask your husband or wife for their forgiveness, but you can’t FORCE them to forgive you. Whether they do or not is their own decision.

Therefore don’t expect anything from your partner at the moment.

It’s true, you are making yourself vulnerable and yes, it may feel excruciating being met by your spouse’s silence or angry words. This truly is the HARDEST part about saying “I’m sorry”.

So avoid acting defensively AT ALL COSTS, even though this may be your first instinct — as it will only undo the good you have just accomplished by apologizing.

And now is definitely not the time to start pointing fingers and trying to get back in your partner for whatever they’ve done.

All you can do now, as hard as it will be, is give your partner time to come to terms with your apology and see for themselves that the changes in your behavior. Forgiveness will come with time. No Contact To Get Husband Back

 

5. Follow your apology up with positive actions

Saying sorry is important, but it isn’t enough on its own to heal your spouse’s harm and move forward. It’s the ACTIONS that follow which really do most of the relationship repairing.

Apologies have to be backed up with positive changes in behaviour, as otherwise your partner will lose faith in you and also will end up more hurt and betrayed consequently.

If you have betrayed your spouse in some way, the secret is to be utterly transparent with your spouse in future — do not attempt to hide or cover up anything.

Keep the lines of communication open and be fair about what — where you’re, what you’re doing, that you are with, what you’re spending… EVERYTHING.

This may seem over-the-top, but the truth is that your partner is likely to be feeling very vulnerable right now, and their hope in you has been shattered. So in order for their hope to be recovered, you need to leave literally zero doubts in their own mind.

And remember, one huge gesture of chocolates and flowers after you have messed up is nice, but it’s not going to have the same impact as continuous small steps to improve your behavior and show your spouse how much you appreciate them.

Even if your partner does not accept your apology straight away, DO NOT GIVE UP. By continuing to show how sorry you are through loving actions, you have the best hope of regaining their trust and love. No Contact To Get Husband Back

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