How To Get Your Ex Husband Back In Love With You

Sorry can be the HARDEST thing to say to your partner — I’m certain you all agree!

By saying so, you are admitting that you’ve messed up and have hurt among those people you love the most. It is never simple.

But the thing is, we’re all human and most of us make mistakes. And unfortunately, sometimes we make mistakes that actually hurt our spouses.

When this happens, it’s our job apologize and to take responsibility for our actions, EVEN whenever your mistake is so BIG you really feel like there is nearly “too much” to apologize for.

It is a fact that the deeper the hurt, the longer the healing process will require.

Continue below to find out what these steps are, and don’t hesitate to talk about your own thoughts and experiences at the conclusion. How To Get Your Ex Husband Back In Love With You

 

5 Step to Say “I’m Sorry” and Truly Mean It. How To Get Your Ex Husband Back In Love With You

 

1. Forgive yourself

You could be thinking something like: “How in the world could I ever forgive myself?” Or “How can an apology start with ME?

However there are several reasons why it’s necessary to try to make peace with yourself after you have made a mistake.

First of all, dwelling on thoughts that are remorseful and self-loathing will use all of your emotional energy up.

This isn’t going to be useful for your marriage or you, since it keeps the focus on the issue, rather than what you can do to FIX it. If you can accept the mistake you have made, you will have the ability to focus your energy on what you could do to make up for it.

Allow me to be clear here. By forgiving yourself, you’re not clearing yourself of any blame… You openly admit that you have made a mistake.

But you are also acknowledging that the behavior you have done wrong does not mean you’re a bad person as a whole and you have the chance to be your best self from now on…

 

 

2. Apologize to your spouse and accept full responsibility

In regards to saying sorry, the sooner the better. But, an apology needs to be said with feeling and real sincerity to be effective.

So you will need the time to calm down until you confer with your partner, take this moment. An angry or sarcastic apology is only going to make the situation even more worse.

As difficult as it can, look into your spouse’s eyes once you go to apologize to them.

For example; “I’m so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you were looking forward to going out and how disappointed and hurt you must’ve felt when I came home late”.

Lastly, never never NEVER say “I’m sorry” and follow this up with a “but” or an excuse.

For instance: “I am so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I understand how much you had been looking forward to heading out and how disappointed and hurt you have to’ve felt when I came home. However, the reason I forgot about dinner is because YOU did not remind me this afternoon. You know I’m busy with work and find it difficult to keep track of what is going on sometimes”.

This is going to make your apology meaningless, and even indicate that you are BLAMING your spouse — that is just going to push them farther away.

So take full responsibility for the actions… Do not try to downplay your mistake to make yourself feel better (because believe me, it will not work!) And concentrate only on YOUR actions, not your spouse’s. How To Get Your Ex Husband Back In Love With You

 

3. Make promises for the future

Come up with a plan to ensure your mistake won’t be repeated in the future and convey this to your partner. Just make sure any promises you make could be followed upon.

For example:

“I will have absolutely no further contact with that person. I will delete him/her out of my phone, Facebook, Twitter, and will inform you immediately if he/she tries to get in touch with me.

I am happy to give you open access to all my accounts and my telephone if this would be helpful to you|If that would be helpful to you, I’m pleased to give you access to all of my account and my phone. I promise to keep in regular communication with you about what I am doing and from now on I will always be at home when I say I will.

I truly want to make this work and will do anything is needed. I can clear my schedule out of work so I can spend as much time with you as possible — as much time as you are comfortable with right now.” How To Get Your Ex Husband Back In Love With You

 

4. Accept your spouse’s reaction

A frequent premise that a partner frequently makes is that as soon as they’ve apologized, their spouse or spouse should stop being sad or angry and give them forgiveness.

And if this doesn’t happen, the apologizing spouse explodes and says something along the lines of: “I have just apologized! What more to you want me to do?! Why can not you just accept it and move on?!”

The thing is, you can ask your husband or wife for their forgiveness, but you can not FORCE them to forgive you. Whether they do or not is their decision.

So don’t expect anything from your spouse at the moment.

It’s true, you are making yourself vulnerable and yes, it might feel excruciating being met by your spouse’s silence or angry words. This truly is the HARDEST part about saying “I am sorry”.

Therefore avoid acting defensively AT ALL COSTS, even though this may be your initial instinct — as it is only going to undo the good you have done by apologizing.

And now is certainly not the time to begin pointing fingers and trying to get back at your spouse for anything they’ve done.

All you can do now, as hard as it is, is give your spouse time to come to terms with your apology and also see for themselves that the changes on your behavior. Forgiveness will come with time. How To Get Your Ex Husband Back In Love With You

 

5. Follow your apology up with positive actions

Saying sorry is vital, but it is not enough on its own to cure your spouse’s harm and move. It is the ACTIONS that follow that actually do the majority of the relationship repairing.

Apologies need to be backed up with favorable changes in behaviour, as otherwise your spouse will lose faith in you and will become more hurt and betrayed consequently.

If you have betrayed your partner in some way, the secret is to be utterly transparent with your spouse in future — don’t try to hide or cover anything up.

Keep the lines of communication open and be honest about everything — where you are, what you are doing, who you are with, what you’re spending… EVERYTHING.

This may appear over-the-top, but the truth is that your spouse is likely to be feeling very vulnerable right now, and their trust in you has been shattered. So in order to their hope to be regained, you need to leave literally zero doubts in their mind.

And keep in mind, one huge gesture of chocolates and flowers after you’ve messed up is fine, but it’s not likely to get exactly the same impact as continuous small steps to improve your behaviour and show your spouse how much you value them.

Even if your spouse doesn’t accept your apology straight away, DO NOT GIVE UP. By continuing to show how sorry you are through loving actions, you’ve got the best hope of regaining their love and trust. How To Get Your Ex Husband Back In Love With You

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