How To Get My Husband Back In Love With Me

Sorry can be the HARDEST thing to say to your spouse — I’m certain you all agree!

By saying this, you are admitting that you’ve messed up and have hurt among those people you love the most. It’s never simple.

However, the thing is, we’re all human and we make mistakes. And unfortunately, sometimes we make mistakes which actually hurt our partners.

When this happens, it is our job to take responsibility for our actions and apologize, EVEN when your mistake is so BIG you really feel like there is nearly “too much” to apologize for.

It is true that the deeper the hurt, the longer the healing process will take.

Continue below to learn what these steps are, and feel free to talk about your own thoughts and experiences at the end. How To Get My Husband Back In Love With Me

 

5 Step to Say “I Am Sorry” and Truly Mean It. How To Get My Husband Back In Love With Me

 

1. Forgive yourself

You might be thinking something like: “How in the world can I ever forgive myself?” Or “How can an apology begin with ME?

But there are several reasons why it is imperative to try to make peace with yourself once you have made a mistake.

First of all, dwelling on remorseful and self-loathing thoughts is going to use up all of your emotional energy.

This is NOT going to be helpful for you or your marriage, as it keeps the focus on the PROBLEM, rather than what you can do to FIX it. If you can accept the mistake you’ve made, you will be able to focus your energy on what you could do in order to make up for it.

Allow me to be clear here. By forgiving yourself, you are not clearing yourself of any blame… You freely admit that you have made a mistake.

But you’re also acknowledging that the behaviour you’ve done wrong does not mean you’re a bad person as a whole and you have the opportunity to be your best self from now on…

 

 

2. Apologize to your partner and accept full responsibility

When it comes to stating sorry, the sooner the better. But, an apology has to be said with genuine sincerity and feeling to work.

So you will need time to calm down until you apologize to your spouse, take this moment. An sarcastic or angry apology is only going to make the situation even more worse.

As hard as it is, look at your spouse’s eyes once you go to apologize to them.

For example; “I am so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I understand how much you were looking forward to going out and just how disappointed and hurt you must’ve felt when I came home late”.

Last, never never NEVER say “I am sorry” and follow it up with a “but” or an excuse.

For example: “I’m so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you had been looking forward to going out and how frustrated and hurt you must’ve felt when I came home. However, the reason why I forgot about dinner is because YOU didn’t remind me this morning. You know I am busy with work and find it difficult to keep track of what is going on occasionally”.

This will make your apology meaningless, and even indicate that you are BLAMING your partner — that is just going to push them further away.

So take full responsibility for the actions… don’t try to reevaluate your error to make yourself feel better (because believe me, it will not work!) And concentrate just on YOUR actions, not your spouse’s. How To Get My Husband Back In Love With Me

 

3. Make promises for the future

Come up with a strategy to ensure your mistake will not be repeated in the future and convey this to your partner. Just make sure any promises you make can be followed upon.

For example:

“I will have absolutely no further contact with that person. I will delete him/her out of my phone, Facebook, Twitter, and will inform you immediately if he/she tries to get in touch with me.

I am happy to give you access to all my accounts and my telephone if this would be helpful to you|If this would be helpful to you, I’m happy to give you access to all my accounts and my phone. I promise to keep in regular communication with you about what I am doing and from now on I will always be at home when I say I will.

I truly want to make this work and will do whatever is needed. I will clear my schedule outside of work so that I can spend as much time with you as possible — as much time as you’re comfortable with at this time.” How To Get My Husband Back In Love With Me

 

4. Accept your spouse’s reaction

A frequent premise that a spouse frequently makes is that when they have apologized, their husband or wife should stop being sad or mad and give forgiveness to them.

And if this doesn’t happen, the apologizing spouse stinks and says something along the lines of: “I’ve just apologized! What more to you want me to do?! Why can’t you just accept it and move on?!”

The thing is, you can ask your husband or spouse for their forgiveness, but you can’t FORCE them to forgive you. Whether they do or not is their decision.

Therefore don’t expect anything from your partner right now.

Yes, you’re making yourself vulnerable and yes, it might feel excruciating being fulfilled by the silence or angry words of your spouse. This truly is the HARDEST part about saying “I am sorry”.

So avoid acting defensively AT ALL COSTS, despite the fact that this might be your initial instinct — as it will only reverse the good you have done by apologizing.

And now is definitely not the time to begin pointing fingers and trying to get back at your spouse for whatever they’ve done.

All you can do right now, as hard as it is, is give your spouse time to come to terms with your own apology and also see for themselves the adjustments on your behavior. Forgiveness will come with time. How To Get My Husband Back In Love With Me

 

5. Follow your apology up with positive actions

Saying sorry is vital, but it is not enough on its own to heal your spouse’s hurt and move. It is the ACTIONS that follow which really do the majority of the relationship fixing.

Apologies have to get backed up with positive changes in behaviour, as otherwise your partner will eliminate faith in you and will end up more hurt and betrayed as a result.

If you’ve betrayed your partner in some manner, the biggest key is to be utterly transparent with your spouse in future — do not attempt to hide or cover up anything.

Keep the lines of communication open and be honest about everything — where you are, what you’re doing, who you’re with, what you’re spending… EVERYTHING.

This might seem counter-intuitive, however, the simple truth is that your spouse is very likely to be feeling really vulnerable right now, and their trust in you has been ruined. So in order to their trust to be recovered, you have to leave literally zero doubts in their own mind.

And remember, one big gesture of flowers and chocolates once you’ve messed up is nice, but it is not going to have exactly the same effect as constant small steps to improve your behavior and show your spouse how much you value them.

Even if your partner doesn’t take your apology straight away, DO NOT GIVE UP. By continuing to show how sorry you are through loving actions, you have the hope of regaining their love and trust. How To Get My Husband Back In Love With Me

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