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Sorry can be the HARDEST thing to say for your spouse — I’m certain you all agree!

By saying so, you’re admitting that you’ve messed up and have hurt one of those people you love the most. It’s never simple.

However, the thing is, we are all human and most of us make mistakes. And regrettably, sometimes we make mistakes that really hurt our partners.

When this happens, it’s our job to take responsibility for our actions and apologize, EVEN whenever your mistake is so BIG you really feel like there’s nearly “too much” to apologize for.

It’s a fact that the deeper the hurt, the longer the recovery process will take.

Continue below to find out what these steps are, and don’t hesitate to share your thoughts and experiences in the conclusion. Get My Husband Love Back

 

5 Step to Say “I’m Sorry” and Really Mean It. Get My Husband Love Back

 

1. Forgive yourself

You might be thinking something like: “How on earth can I ever forgive myself?” Or “How can an apology start with ME?

But there are numerous reasons why it is imperative to attempt to make peace with yourself after you’ve made a mistake.

To start with, dwelling on remorseful and self-loathing thoughts will use up all of your emotional energy.

This isn’t going to be useful for your marriage or you, as it keeps the focus on the issue, rather than what you can do to repair it. If you can accept the mistake you’ve made, you’ll be able to then focus your energy on what you can do in order to make up for it.

Let me be clear here. By forgiving yourself, you are not clearing yourself of any blame… You freely admit that you have made a mistake.

But you’re also acknowledging that the behavior you’ve done wrong does not mean you’re a terrible person as a whole and you’ve got the chance to be your very best self from now on…

 

 

2. Apologize to your partner and take full responsibility

When it comes to saying sorry, the earlier the better. However, an apology has to be said with feeling and real sincerity to work.

So you need the time until you apologize to your partner, take this time to calm down. An sarcastic or angry apology is only going to make the situation even more worse.

As hard as it can, look at your spouse’s eyes once you go to confer with them.

For example; “I’m so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you were looking forward to going out and how disappointed and hurt you must’ve felt when I came home late”.

Lastly, never never NEVER say “I’m sorry” and follow this up with a “but” or an excuse.

For example: “I am so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you were looking forward to going out and how disappointed and hurt you have to’ve felt when I arrived home. BUT the reason why I forgot about dinner is because YOU didn’t remind me this morning. You know I am busy with work and find it hard to keep track of what is going on occasionally”.

This is going to make your apology meaningless, and even indicate that you are BLAMING your spouse — that is just going to push them further away.

So accept full responsibility for your actions… don’t try to downplay your mistake to make yourself feel better (because believe me, it won’t work!) And concentrate just on YOUR actions, not your spouse’s. Get My Husband Love Back

 

3. Make promises for the future

Come up with a strategy to ensure your mistake will not be repeated in the future and communicate this to your partner. Make sure any promises you make can be followed upon.

For example:

“I have absolutely no further contact with that person. I will delete him/her out of my telephone, Facebook, Twitter, and will inform you instantly if he/she ever tries to get in contact with me.

I’m happy to give you open access to all of my accounts and my phone if this would be helpful to you|If that would be helpful to you, I am pleased to give you open access to every one my account and my telephone. I promise to keep in communication with you and from today on I will always be at home when I say I will.

I really wish to make this work and will do whatever is needed. I can clear my schedule outside of work so I can spend as much time with you as possible — as much time as you are comfortable with right now.” Get My Husband Love Back

 

4. Accept your spouse’s reaction

A common premise that a partner frequently makes is that when they have apologized, wife or their husband should stop being sad or mad and give forgiveness to them.

And if this does not happen, the apologizing spouse stinks and says something along the lines of: “I’ve just apologized! What more to you need me to do?! Why can’t you just accept it and move on?!”

The thing is, you can ask your husband or wife for their forgiveness, but you can’t FORCE them to forgive you. Whether they do or not is their own choice.

So don’t expect anything from your spouse right now.

Yes, you are making yourself vulnerable and yes, it may feel excruciating being met by the silence or angry words of your spouse. This truly is the HARDEST part about saying “I’m sorry”.

Therefore avoid acting defensively AT ALL COSTS, despite the fact that this may be your initial instinct — as it will reverse the good you have just accomplished by apologizing.

And now is definitely not the time to begin pointing fingers and trying to get back in your partner for whatever they’ve done.

All you can do right now, as hard as it will be, is give your partner time to come to terms with your apology and also see for themselves the adjustments in your behavior. Forgiveness will come with time. Get My Husband Love Back

 

5. Follow your apology up with positive actions

Saying sorry is important, but it isn’t enough on its own to cure your spouse’s harm and move forward. It’s the ACTIONS that follow that really do most of the relationship fixing.

Apologies have to be backed up with favorable changes in behavior, as otherwise your partner will lose faith in you and will end up more hurt and betrayed consequently.

If you have betrayed your partner in some way, the biggest key is to be utterly transparent with your spouse in future — do not try to hide or cover anything up.

Keep the lines of communication open and be fair about everything — where you’re, what you are doing, who you’re with, what you are spending… EVERYTHING.

This might seem counter-intuitive, however, the truth is that your partner is likely to be feeling really vulnerable right now, and their hope in you has been ruined. So in order to their hope to be regained, you need to leave literally zero doubts in their own mind.

And keep in mind, one huge gesture of chocolates and flowers once you’ve messed up is fine, but it’s not likely to have exactly the same effect as constant small steps to improve your behaviour and reveal your partner how much you appreciate them.

Even if your partner does not accept your apology straight away, DO NOT GIVE UP. By continuing to show how sorry you’re through loving actions, you have the best hope of regaining their trust and love. Get My Husband Love Back

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