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Sorry can be the HARDEST thing to say for your spouse — I’m sure you agree!

By saying this, you are admitting that you have messed up and have hurt one of those people that you love the most. It is never easy.

However, the thing is, we are all human and we ALL make mistakes. And unfortunately, sometimes we make mistakes which really hurt our spouses.

When this happens, it’s our job to take responsibility and apologize, EVEN whenever your mistake is so BIG you really feel like there is nearly “too much” to apologize for.

It is a fact that the deeper the hurt, the longer the healing process will require.

Continue below to find out what these steps are, and don’t hesitate to talk about your own thoughts and experiences at the conclusion. Get Husband To Come Back Home

 

5 Step to Say “I Am Sorry” and Really Mean It. Get Husband To Come Back Home

 

1. Forgive yourself

You might be thinking something like: “How in the world can I ever forgive myself?” Or “How can an apology start with ME?

But there are several reasons why it is imperative to try to make peace with yourself after you have made a mistake.

To start with, dwelling on thoughts that are remorseful and self-loathing will use all of your emotional energy up.

This isn’t going to be useful for you or your marriage, as it keeps the focus on the PROBLEM, rather than what you can do to FIX it. If you can accept the mistake you have made, you will have the ability to then focus your energy on what you could do in order to compensate for it.

Let me be clear here. By forgiving yourself, you’re not clearing yourself of any blame… You openly admit that you’ve made a mistake.

However, you are also acknowledging that the behavior you’ve done wrong does not mean you’re a bad person as a whole and you have the opportunity to be your very best self from now on…

 

 

2. Apologize to your partner and take full responsibility

When it comes to saying sorry, the sooner the better. However, an apology needs to be said with real sincerity and feeling to work.

So you need the time until you apologize to your spouse, take this moment to calm down. An angry or sarcastic apology is only going to make the situation even more worse.

As hard as it is, look into your partner’s eyes once you go to apologize to them.

For instance; “I am so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you were looking forward to going out and just how disappointed and hurt you must’ve felt when I came home late”.

Last, never never NEVER say “I’m sorry” and follow this up with a “but” or an excuse.

For instance: “I am so sorry I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I understand how much you had been looking forward to going out and how disappointed and hurt you have to’ve felt when I came home late. BUT the reason I forgot about dinner is because YOU didn’t remind me this afternoon. You know I am busy with work and find it hard to keep track of what is going on sometimes”.

This will make your apology meaningless, and also indicate that you’re BLAMING your spouse — that is only going to push them further away.

So accept full responsibility for your actions… Do not attempt to downplay your mistake to make yourself feel better (because believe me, it will not work!) And concentrate only on YOUR actions, not your spouse’s. Get Husband To Come Back Home

 

3. Make promises for the future

Come up with a strategy to ensure your mistake will not be repeated in the future and convey this to your spouse. Make sure any promises you make could be followed upon.

For instance:

“I will have absolutely no further contact with that person. I will delete him/her out of my phone, Facebook, Twitter, and will let you know immediately if he/she tries to get in touch with me.

I’m pleased to give you open access to all of my accounts and my phone if this would be helpful to you|If this would be helpful to you, I am pleased to offer you access to every one of my accounts and my telephone. I promise to keep in communication with you about what I am doing and from today on I will always be at home when I say I will.

I really wish to make this work and will do whatever it takes. I can clear my schedule outside of work so that I could spend as much time with you as possible — as much time as you’re comfortable with at this time.” Get Husband To Come Back Home

 

4. Accept your spouse’s reaction

A frequent premise that a partner frequently makes is that as soon as they have apologized, wife or their husband should stop being sad or angry and give forgiveness to them.

And if this doesn’t happen, the apologizing spouse explodes and says something along the lines of: “I’ve just apologized! What more to you want me to do?! Why can not you just accept it and move on?!”

The thing is, you can ask your husband or spouse for their forgiveness, but you can’t FORCE them to forgive you. Whether they do or not is their choice.

So don’t expect anything from your partner at the moment.

It’s true, you are making yourself vulnerable and yes, it might feel excruciating being met by your spouse’s silence or angry words. This truly is the HARDEST part about saying “I’m sorry”.

So avoid acting defensively AT ALL COSTS, despite the fact that this might be your first instinct — since it will reverse the good you have accomplished by apologizing.

And now is definitely not the time to start pointing fingers and trying to get back at your spouse for anything they’ve done.

All you can do right now, as hard as it will be, is give your partner time to come to terms with your apology and see for themselves that the adjustments in your behavior. Forgiveness will come with time. Get Husband To Come Back Home

 

5. Follow your apology up with positive actions

Saying sorry is important, but it isn’t enough on its own to cure your partner’s harm and move. It is the ACTIONS that follow that really do most of the relationship fixing.

Apologies need to be backed up with positive changes in behavior, as otherwise your spouse will lose faith in you and also will become more hurt and betrayed consequently.

If you’ve betrayed your partner in some way, the secret is to be utterly transparent with your spouse in future — do not attempt to hide or cover anything up.

Keep the lines of communication open and be honest about everything — where you are, what you’re doing, who you are with, what you are spending… EVERYTHING.

This might seem over-the-top, but the truth is that your spouse is likely to be feeling very vulnerable at the moment, and their trust in you has been shattered. So in order to their trust to be recovered, you have to leave literally zero doubts in their mind.

And keep in mind, one huge gesture of flowers and chocolates after you have messed up is nice, but it’s not likely to have exactly the identical impact as continuous small steps to improve your behaviour and reveal your partner how much you appreciate them.

Even if your partner doesn’t accept your apology straight away, DO NOT GIVE UP. By continuing to show how sorry you’re through loving actions, you have the best hope of regaining their trust and love. Get Husband To Come Back Home

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Sorry can be the HARDEST thing to say for your partner — I’m certain you agree!

By saying this, you’re admitting that you’ve messed up and have hurt one of the people you love the most. It is never easy.

However, the thing is, we’re all human and we make mistakes. And unfortunately, sometimes we make mistakes that actually hurt our partners.

When this happens, it is our job to take responsibility for our actions and apologize, EVEN when your mistake is so BIG you feel like there is nearly “too much” to apologize for.

It’s true that the deeper the hurt, the longer the healing process will take.

Continue below to learn what these steps are, and don’t hesitate to share experiences and your thoughts in the conclusion. Get Husband To Come Back Home

 

5 Step to Say “I Am Sorry” and Truly Mean It. Get Husband To Come Back Home

 

1. Forgive yourself

You could be thinking something like: “How on earth can I ever forgive myself?” Or “How do an apology start with ME?

However there are several reasons why it is necessary to try to make peace with yourself once you’ve made a mistake.

To start with, dwelling on thoughts that are self-loathing and remorseful will use all of your emotional energy up.

This is NOT going to be helpful for you or your marriage, since it keeps the focus on the issue, rather than what you can do to repair it. If you can accept the mistake you have made, you will be able to focus your energy on what you can do in order to make up for it.

Allow me to be clear here. By forgiving yourself, you’re not clearing yourself of any blame… You freely admit that you have made a mistake.

However, you’re also acknowledging that the behaviour you have done wrong does not mean you are a bad person as a whole and you’ve got the chance to be your best self from now on…

 

 

2. Apologize to your spouse and accept full responsibility

In regards to saying sorry, the sooner the better. However, an apology has to be said with feeling and real sincerity to work.

So you need the time to calm down until you confer with your spouse, take this moment. An sarcastic or angry apology will only make the situation even more worse.

As difficult as it is, look into your partner’s eyes once you go to apologize to them.

For instance; “I’m so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you were looking forward to going out and how disappointed and hurt you have felt when I came home late”.

Last, never never NEVER say “I am sorry” and follow it up with a “but” or an excuse.

For instance: “I am so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you had been looking forward to heading out and how frustrated and hurt you must’ve felt when I arrived home late. BUT the reason I forgot about dinner is because YOU did not remind me this morning. You know I am busy with work and find it hard to keep track of what’s happening occasionally”.

This is going to make your apology meaningless, and also indicate that you are BLAMING your partner — that is only going to push them farther away.

So take full responsibility for the actions… Do not try to reevaluate your error to make yourself feel better (because believe me, it will not work!) And focus only on YOUR actions, not your spouse’s. Get Husband To Come Back Home

 

3. Make promises for the future

Come up with a plan to make certain your mistake will not be repeated in the future and communicate this to your spouse. Just make sure any promises you make could be followed upon.

For example:

“I will have absolutely no further contact with that person. I will delete him/her from my telephone, Facebook, Twitter, and also will inform you immediately if he/she tries to get in contact with me.

I’m pleased to give you access to all of my accounts and my telephone if this would be helpful to you|If that would be helpful to you, I am pleased to give you open access to all of my accounts and my phone. I promise to keep in regular communication with you and from today on I will always be at home when I say I will.

I really want to make this work and will do whatever it takes. I will clear my schedule outside of work so I could spend as much time with you as possible — as much time as you are comfortable with right now.” Get Husband To Come Back Home

 

4. Accept your spouse’s reaction

A common premise that a partner frequently makes is that as soon as they have apologized, their husband or wife should stop being sad or angry and give forgiveness to them.

And when this does not happen, the apologizing spouse stinks and says something along the lines of: “I have just apologized! What more to you want me to do?! Why can not you just accept it and move on?!”

The thing is, you can ask your husband or spouse for their forgiveness, but you can’t FORCE them to forgive you. Whether they do or not is their own decision.

So don’t expect anything from your spouse right now.

Yes, you’re making yourself vulnerable and yes, it may feel excruciating being met angry words or by your partner’s silence. This truly is the HARDEST part about saying “I am sorry”.

So avoid acting defensively AT ALL COSTS, despite the fact that this might be your initial instinct — since it will undo the good you have done by apologizing.

And now is definitely not the time to start pointing fingers and trying to get back at your partner for whatever they have done.

All you can do now, as hard as it can be, is give your spouse time to come to terms with your apology and see for themselves that the adjustments in your own behavior. Forgiveness will come with time. Get Husband To Come Back Home

 

5. Follow your apology up with positive actions

Saying sorry is vital, but it is not enough on its own to heal your spouse’s hurt and move forward. It’s the ACTIONS that follow that really do the majority of the relationship fixing.

Apologies need to get backed up with favorable changes in behavior, as otherwise your partner will eliminate faith in you and will become more hurt and betrayed consequently.

If you’ve betrayed your spouse in some manner, the biggest key is to be utterly transparent with your partner in future — don’t attempt to hide or cover anything up.

Keep the lines of communication open and be fair about what — where you’re, what you’re doing, who you’re with, what you are spending… EVERYTHING.

This might seem counter-intuitive, however, the simple truth is that your partner is likely to be feeling very vulnerable right now, and their hope in you has been ruined. So in order for their trust to be regained, you need to leave literally no doubts in their own mind.

And remember, one big gesture of chocolates and flowers once you’ve messed up is nice, but it is not likely to have the identical impact as continuous small actions to improve your behaviour and show your partner how much you appreciate them.

Even if your spouse does not accept your apology straight away, DO NOT GIVE UP. By continuing to demonstrate how sorry you’re through loving actions, you have the best hope of regaining their love and trust. Get Husband To Come Back Home

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