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Sorry can be the HARDEST thing to say to your partner — I’m certain you all agree!

By saying so, you are admitting that you have messed up and have hurt one of the people you love the most. It is never simple.

However, the thing is, we are all human and most of us make mistakes. And unfortunately, sometimes we make mistakes that actually hurt our partners.

When this occurs, it is our job apologize and to take responsibility, EVEN when your mistake is so BIG you feel like there is nearly “too much” to apologize for.

It’s a fact that the deeper the hurt, the longer the healing process will take.

Continue below to learn what these steps are, and don’t hesitate to talk about your thoughts and experiences in the conclusion. Get Husband Back

 

5 Step to Say “I Am Sorry” and Really Mean It. Get Husband Back

 

1. Forgive yourself

You might be thinking something like: “How on earth can I ever forgive myself?” Or “How can an apology start with ME?

However there are several reasons why it’s imperative to attempt to make peace with yourself once you’ve made a mistake.

To start with, dwelling on remorseful and self-loathing thoughts will use up all of your emotional energy.

This is NOT going to be useful for you or your marriage, as it keeps the focus on the issue, rather than what you can do to repair it. If you can accept the mistake you have made, you’ll have the ability to then focus your energy on what you can do in order to compensate for it.

Let me be clear here. By forgiving yourself, you are not clearing yourself of any blame… You freely admit that you’ve made a mistake.

But you’re also acknowledging that the behaviour you have done wrong does not mean you are a terrible person as a whole and you’ve got the chance to be your very best self from now on…

 

 

2. Apologize to your partner and take full responsibility

In regards to saying sorry, the sooner the better. However, an apology needs to be said with genuine sincerity and feeling to be effective.

So you need time to calm down until you apologize to your partner, take this moment. An sarcastic or angry apology is only going to make the situation even more worse.

As difficult as it is, look into your partner’s eyes once you go to apologize to them.

For example; “I’m so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you were looking forward to going out and how disappointed and hurt you must’ve felt when I came home late”.

Last, never never NEVER say “I am sorry” and follow this up with a “but” or an excuse.

For example: “I’m so sorry I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I understand how much you were looking forward to going out and how disappointed and hurt you have to’ve felt when I came home. BUT the reason I forgot about dinner is because YOU didn’t remind me this afternoon. You know I am busy with work and find it difficult to keep track of what’s going on occasionally”.

This is going to make your apology meaningless, and also indicate that you are BLAMING your partner — which is just going to push them farther away.

So accept full responsibility for the actions… don’t attempt to reevaluate your error to make yourself feel better (because believe me, it won’t work!) And concentrate only on YOUR actions, not your spouse’s. Get Husband Back

 

3. Make promises for the future

Come up with a plan to make certain your mistake will not be repeated in the future and convey this to your spouse. Just make sure any promises you make can be followed upon.

For instance:

“I will have absolutely no further contact with that person. I will delete him/her out of my phone, Facebook, Twitter, and also will inform you instantly if he/she tries to get in touch with me.

I’m pleased to give you open access to all my account and my phone if that would be helpful to you|If that would be helpful to you, I’m pleased to offer you access to all my accounts and my phone. I promise to keep in regular communication with you about what I am doing and from today on I will always be at home when I say I will.

I really want to make this work and will do anything is needed. I can clear my schedule out of work so that I could spend as much time with you as possible — as much time as you’re comfortable with right now.” Get Husband Back

 

4. Accept your spouse’s reaction

A frequent assumption that a spouse frequently makes is that as soon as they have apologized, their husband or wife should stop being sad or mad and give them forgiveness.

And when this doesn’t happen, the apologizing spouse stinks and says something along the lines of: “I’ve just apologized! What more to you need me to do?! Why can’t you just accept it and move on?!”

The thing is, you can ask your husband or wife for their forgiveness, but you can not FORCE them to forgive you. Whether they do or not is their own choice.

Therefore don’t expect anything from your partner at the moment.

It’s true, you are making yourself vulnerable and yes, it might feel excruciating being met by the silence or angry words of your spouse. This truly is the HARDEST part about saying “I’m sorry”.

So avoid acting defensively AT ALL COSTS, despite the fact that this might be your initial instinct — as it will undo the good you have just accomplished by apologizing.

And now is certainly not the time to start pointing fingers and trying to get back in your spouse for whatever they’ve done.

All you can do now, as hard as it is, is give your partner time to come to terms with your own apology and also see for themselves the changes in your behavior. Forgiveness will come with time. Get Husband Back

 

5. Follow your apology up with positive actions

Saying sorry is vital, but it isn’t enough on its own to heal your partner’s harm and move forward. It’s the ACTIONS that follow that actually do most of the relationship repairing.

Apologies have to be backed up with favorable changes in behavior, as otherwise your partner will eliminate faith in you and also will end up more hurt and betrayed consequently.

If you’ve betrayed your spouse in some way, the biggest key is to be utterly transparent with your partner in future — do not attempt to hide or cover anything up.

Keep the lines of communication open and be honest about what — where you’re, what you are doing, who you’re with, what you are spending… EVERYTHING.

This might appear counter-intuitive, however, the truth is that your spouse is likely to be feeling really vulnerable at the moment, and their trust in you has been ruined. So in order for their hope to be recovered, you need to leave literally no doubts in their own mind.

And keep in mind, one huge gesture of chocolates and flowers once you’ve messed up is nice, but it is not going to have exactly the identical impact as continuous small steps to improve your behaviour and show your partner how much you value them.

Even if your spouse doesn’t accept your apology straight away, DO NOT GIVE UP. By continuing to show how sorry you are through loving actions, you have the hope of regaining their love and trust. Get Husband Back

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Sorry can be the HARDEST thing to say for your spouse — I’m certain you all agree!

By saying this, you’re admitting that you have messed up and have hurt one of the people you love the most. It’s never simple.

However, the thing is, we’re all human and most of us make mistakes. And regrettably, sometimes we make mistakes that really hurt our partners.

When this happens, it is our job to take responsibility for our actions and apologize, EVEN when your mistake is so BIG you really feel like there’s almost “too much” to apologize for.

It’s true that the deeper the hurt, the longer the healing process will require.

Continue below to find out what these steps are, and don’t hesitate to talk about your own thoughts and experiences at the end. Get Husband Back

 

5 Step to Say “I’m Sorry” and Really Mean It. Get Husband Back

 

1. Forgive yourself

You could be thinking something like: “How on earth can I ever forgive myself?” Or “How can an apology begin with ME?

But there are numerous reasons why it is imperative to try to make peace with yourself after you’ve made a mistake.

First of all, dwelling on thoughts that are remorseful and self-loathing will use all of your emotional energy up.

This is NOT going to be useful for you or your marriage, as it keeps the focus on the PROBLEM, rather than what you can do to FIX it. If you can accept the mistake you’ve made, you will have the ability to then focus your energy on what you can do in order to compensate for it.

Allow me to be clear here. By forgiving yourself, you’re not clearing yourself of any blame… You freely admit that you’ve made a mistake.

However, you’re also acknowledging that the behaviour you’ve done wrong does not mean you are a terrible person as a whole and you’ve got the chance to be your best self from now on…

 

 

2. Apologize to your partner and take full responsibility

When it comes to saying sorry, the earlier the better. However, an apology has to be said with feeling and real sincerity to work.

So you need time before you apologize to your spouse, take this moment to calm down. An sarcastic or angry apology will only make the situation even more worse.

As hard as it is, look at your partner’s eyes when you go to apologize to them.

For instance; “I’m so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I understand how much you were looking forward to going out and how disappointed and hurt you must’ve felt when I came home late”.

Lastly, never never NEVER say “I’m sorry” and follow this up with a “but” or an excuse.

For instance: “I am so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you were looking forward to heading out and how disappointed and hurt you have to’ve felt when I arrived home late. BUT the reason why I forgot about dinner is because YOU didn’t remind me this afternoon. You know I’m busy with work and find it hard to keep track of what is happening occasionally”.

This is going to make your apology meaningless, and even imply that you’re BLAMING your partner — that is just going to push them further away.

So take full responsibility for your actions… don’t attempt to reevaluate your error to make yourself feel better (because believe me, it will not work!) And focus just on YOUR actions, not your spouse’s. Get Husband Back

 

3. Make promises for the future

Come up with a strategy to make certain your mistake won’t be repeated in the future and communicate this to your partner. Just make sure any promises you make can be followed upon.

For example:

“I have absolutely no further contact with that person. I will delete him/her from my phone, Facebook, Twitter, and also will inform you instantly if he/she tries to get in contact with me.

I’m pleased to give you open access to all my account and my phone if that would be helpful to you|If that would be helpful to you, I am pleased to give you open access to all my accounts and my telephone. I promise to keep in regular communication with you about what I am doing and from now on I will always be at home when I say I will.

I really wish to make this work and will do anything it takes. I will clear my schedule out of work so that I can spend as much time with you as possible — as much time as you are comfortable with right now.” Get Husband Back

 

4. Accept your spouse’s reaction

A frequent assumption that a partner often makes is that when they have apologized, their husband or wife should stop being sad or mad and give them forgiveness.

And if this doesn’t happen, the apologizing spouse stinks and says something along the lines of: “I have just apologized! What more to you want me to do?! Why can not you just accept it and move on?!”

The thing is, you can ask your husband or spouse for their forgiveness, but you can not FORCE them to forgive you. Whether they do or not is their own decision.

Therefore don’t expect anything from your partner right now.

It’s true, you’re making yourself vulnerable and yes, it may feel excruciating being fulfilled by the silence or angry words of your spouse. This truly is the HARDEST part about saying “I’m sorry”.

So avoid acting defensively AT ALL COSTS, despite the fact that this might be your initial instinct — as it is only going to undo the good you have accomplished by apologizing.

And now is certainly not the time to begin pointing fingers and trying to get back at your spouse for anything they’ve done.

All you can do now, as hard as it can be, is give your partner time to come to terms with your own apology and see for themselves the changes in your own behavior. Forgiveness will come with time. Get Husband Back

 

5. Follow your apology up with positive actions

Saying sorry is important, but it is not enough on its own to cure your spouse’s hurt and move. It’s the ACTIONS that follow which actually do most of the relationship repairing.

Apologies have to be backed up with positive changes in behavior, as otherwise your partner will eliminate faith in you and also will end up more hurt and betrayed as a result.

If you’ve betrayed your partner in some manner, the biggest key is to be ABSOLUTELY transparent with your partner in future — don’t try to hide or cover up anything.

Keep the lines of communication open and be honest about everything — where you’re, what you’re doing, that you’re with, what you’re spending… EVERYTHING.

This may seem counter-intuitive, however, the truth is that your partner is very likely to be feeling very vulnerable at the moment, and their hope in you has been ruined. So in order to their hope to be recovered, you need to leave literally no doubts in their mind.

And keep in mind, one big gesture of flowers and chocolates once you have messed up is nice, but it’s not likely to get exactly the same effect as continuous small actions to improve your behaviour and show your spouse how much you value them.

Even if your spouse doesn’t accept your apology straight away, DO NOT GIVE UP. By continuing to demonstrate how sorry you are through loving actions, you’ve got the hope of regaining their love and trust. Get Husband Back

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