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Sorry can be the HARDEST thing to say to your spouse — I am sure you all agree!

By saying this, you are admitting that you have messed up and have hurt one of those people you love the most. It is never easy.

However, the thing is, we’re all human and we make mistakes. And regrettably, sometimes we make mistakes that really hurt our partners.

When this happens, it’s our job to take responsibility and apologize, EVEN when your mistake is so BIG you really feel like there’s nearly “too much” to apologize for.

It is true that the deeper the hurt, the longer the recovery process will take.

Continue below to learn what these steps are, and don’t hesitate to talk about your own thoughts and experiences in the end. Get Back At Husband For Cheating

 

5 Step to Say “I’m Sorry” and Truly Mean It. Get Back At Husband For Cheating

 

1. Forgive yourself

You could be thinking something like: “How in the world can I ever forgive myself?” Or “How can an apology start with ME?

But there are several reasons why it is imperative to attempt to make peace with yourself once you have made a mistake.

First of all, dwelling on remorseful and self-loathing thoughts will use up all of your emotional energy.

This is NOT going to be useful for you or your marriage, as it keeps the focus on the PROBLEM, rather than what you can do to FIX it. If you can accept the mistake you have made, you’ll have the ability to then focus your energy on what you could do to make up for it.

Allow me to be clear here. By forgiving yourself, you’re not clearing yourself of any blame… You openly admit that you’ve made a mistake.

However, you’re also acknowledging that the behavior you’ve done wrong does not mean you’re a bad person as a whole and you’ve got the chance to be your very best self from now on…

 

 

2. Apologize to your spouse and accept full responsibility

In regards to stating sorry, the sooner the better. But, an apology has to be said with feeling and genuine sincerity to work.

So you will need the time to calm down until you confer with your partner, take this moment. An sarcastic or angry apology will make the situation even more worse.

As difficult as it is, look into your partner’s eyes once you go to apologize to them.

For example; “I am so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I understand how much you had been looking forward to going out and how disappointed and hurt you must’ve felt when I came home late”.

Last, never never NEVER say “I’m sorry” and follow this up with a “but” or an excuse.

For instance: “I’m so sorry I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I understand how much you were looking forward to going out and how frustrated and hurt you must’ve felt when I arrived home late. BUT the reason why I forgot about dinner is because YOU did not remind me this morning. You know I am busy with work and find it hard to keep track of what’s going on occasionally”.

This is going to make your apology meaningless, and also imply that you’re BLAMING your partner — which is just going to push them further away.

So accept full responsibility for the actions… don’t try to reevaluate your error to make yourself feel better (because believe me, it won’t work!) And concentrate just on YOUR actions, not your spouse’s. Get Back At Husband For Cheating

 

3. Make promises for the future

Come up with a strategy to ensure your mistake won’t be repeated in the future and convey this to your spouse. Make sure any promises you make can be followed up on.

For instance:

“I have absolutely no further contact with that person. I will delete him/her out of my phone, Facebook, Twitter, and also will inform you instantly if he/she tries to get in touch with me.

I’m happy to give you open access to all of my accounts and my phone if this would be helpful to you|If this would be helpful to you, I’m pleased to give you open access. I promise to keep in regular communication with you about what I am doing and from now on I will always be at home when I say I will.

I truly wish to make this work and will do anything it takes. I will clear my schedule out of work so that I can spend as much time with you as possible — as much time as you are comfortable with right now.” Get Back At Husband For Cheating

 

4. Accept your spouse’s reaction

A common assumption that a spouse frequently makes is that when they’ve apologized, wife or their husband should stop being angry or sad and give them forgiveness.

And when this doesn’t happen, the apologizing spouse stinks and says something along the lines of: “I have just apologized! What more to you need me to do?! Why can not you just accept it and move on?!”

The thing is, you can ask your husband or wife for their forgiveness, but you can not FORCE them to forgive you. Whether they do or not is their choice.

Therefore don’t expect anything from your partner at the moment.

It’s true, you’re making yourself vulnerable and yes, it might feel excruciating being fulfilled by the silence or angry words of your spouse. This truly is the HARDEST part about saying “I am sorry”.

Therefore avoid acting defensively AT ALL COSTS, despite the fact that this might be your first instinct — since it is only going to undo the good you have done by apologizing.

And now is certainly not the time to begin pointing fingers and trying to get back at your spouse for whatever they’ve done.

All you can do right now, as hard as it will be, is give your partner time to come to terms with your own apology and see for themselves that the changes on your behavior. Forgiveness will come with time. Get Back At Husband For Cheating

 

5. Follow your apology up with positive actions

Saying sorry is important, but it isn’t sufficient on its own to heal your partner’s hurt and move. It’s the ACTIONS that follow that actually do the majority of the relationship fixing.

Apologies need to be backed up with positive changes in behaviour, as otherwise your partner will eliminate faith in you and also will become more hurt and betrayed as a result.

If you have betrayed your spouse in some way, the key is to be ABSOLUTELY transparent with your spouse in future — do not attempt to hide or cover anything up.

Keep the lines of communication open and be fair about everything — where you’re, what you are doing, who you are with, what you are spending… EVERYTHING.

This might appear over-the-top, but the truth is that your spouse is very likely to be feeling very vulnerable at the moment, and their hope in you has been ruined. So in order to their hope to be recovered, you need to leave literally no doubts in their mind.

And keep in mind, one huge gesture of chocolates and flowers after you’ve messed up is fine, but it’s not going to get the same effect as constant small steps to improve your behaviour and show your partner how much you value them.

Even if your spouse doesn’t take your apology straight away, DO NOT GIVE UP. By continuing to show how sorry you are through loving actions, you’ve got the hope of regaining their trust and love. Get Back At Husband For Cheating

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