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Sorry can be the HARDEST thing to say to your spouse — I’m certain you all agree!

By saying this, you are admitting that you have messed up and have hurt one of the people you love the most. It’s never easy.

However, the thing is, we’re all human and we make mistakes. And regrettably, sometimes we make mistakes that really hurt our partners.

When this happens, it is our job apologize and to take responsibility for our actions, EVEN whenever your mistake is so BIG you feel like there is nearly “too much” to apologize for.

It is a fact that the deeper the hurt, the longer the healing process will require.

Continue below to find out what these steps are, and feel free to share experiences and your thoughts at the end. Dua To Get My Husband Back

 

5 Step to Say “I’m Sorry” and Truly Mean It. Dua To Get My Husband Back

 

1. Forgive yourself

You could be thinking something like: “How on earth can I ever forgive myself?” Or “How do an apology begin with ME?

But there are several reasons why it is necessary to try to make peace with yourself once you’ve made a mistake.

To start with, dwelling on thoughts that are remorseful and self-loathing will use all of your emotional energy up.

This isn’t going to be useful for you or your marriage, since it keeps the focus on the PROBLEM, rather than what you can do to repair it. If you can accept the mistake you’ve made, you will be able to focus your energy on what you could do in order to compensate for it.

Let me be clear here. By forgiving yourself, you’re not clearing yourself of any blame… You openly admit that you’ve made a mistake.

However, you’re also acknowledging that the behaviour you’ve done wrong does not mean you’re a bad person as a whole and you’ve got the opportunity to be your best self from now on…

 

 

2. Apologize to your partner and accept full responsibility

When it comes to stating sorry, the sooner the better. But, an apology needs to be said with real sincerity and feeling to be effective.

So you will need the time to calm down before you apologize to your partner, take this time. An sarcastic or angry apology will make the situation even more worse.

As difficult as it is, look into your partner’s eyes once you go to confer with them.

For instance; “I’m so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I understand how much you had been looking forward to going out and how disappointed and hurt you must’ve felt when I came home late”.

Last, never never NEVER say “I am sorry” and follow this up with a “but” or an excuse.

For instance: “I am so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I understand how much you were looking forward to heading out and how frustrated and hurt you must’ve felt when I arrived home late. However, the reason why I forgot about dinner is because YOU didn’t remind me this afternoon. You know I am busy with work and find it difficult to keep track of what’s going on occasionally”.

This will make your apology meaningless, and also imply that you are BLAMING your spouse — which is just going to push them farther away.

So accept full responsibility for your actions… Do not try to reevaluate your error to make yourself feel better (because believe me, it will not work!) And concentrate only on YOUR actions, not your spouse’s. Dua To Get My Husband Back

 

3. Make promises for the future

Come up with a plan to ensure your mistake will not be repeated in the future and convey this to your spouse. Make sure any promises you make can be followed up on.

For example:

“I have absolutely no further contact with that person. I will delete him/her out of my telephone, Facebook, Twitter, and will inform you immediately if he/she ever tries to get in contact with me.

I’m pleased to give you open access to all of my account and my telephone if that would be helpful to you|If that would be helpful to you, I am happy to offer you open access. I promise to keep in communication with you about what I am doing and from today on I will always be at home when I say I will.

I truly wish to make this work and will do whatever is needed. I will clear my schedule out of work so that I can spend as much time with you as possible — as much time as you are comfortable with at this time.” Dua To Get My Husband Back

 

4. Accept your spouse’s reaction

A common premise that a spouse often makes is that as soon as they have apologized, their spouse or spouse should stop being mad or sad and give them forgiveness.

And if this does not happen, the apologizing spouse explodes and says something along the lines of: “I’ve just apologized! What more to you want me to do?! Why can not you just accept it and move on?!”

The thing is, you can ask your husband or wife for their forgiveness, but you can’t FORCE them to forgive you. Whether they do or not is their own choice.

So don’t expect anything from your partner at the moment.

Yes, you are making yourself vulnerable and yes, it might feel excruciating being met by your partner’s silence or angry words. This truly is the HARDEST part about saying “I am sorry”.

Therefore avoid acting defensively AT ALL COSTS, even though this may be your first instinct — as it will undo the good you have accomplished by apologizing.

And now is definitely not the time to start pointing fingers and trying to get back in your spouse for anything they have done.

All you can do right now, as hard as it will be, is give your spouse time to come to terms with your apology and also see for themselves that the changes in your own behavior. Forgiveness will come with time. Dua To Get My Husband Back

 

5. Follow your apology up with positive actions

Saying sorry is important, but it is not enough on its own to heal your partner’s hurt and move. It’s the ACTIONS that follow that actually do most of the relationship repairing.

Apologies need to be backed up with positive changes in behaviour, as otherwise your partner will lose faith in you and also will end up more hurt and betrayed as a result.

If you have betrayed your partner in some way, the biggest key is to be utterly transparent with your partner in future — do not try to hide or cover up anything.

Keep the lines of communication open and be fair about everything — where you’re, what you are doing, that you are with, what you are spending… EVERYTHING.

This might appear over-the-top, but the truth is that your partner is very likely to be feeling very vulnerable right now, and their trust in you has been shattered. So in order for their hope to be recovered, you have to leave literally zero doubts in their mind.

And keep in mind, one big gesture of flowers and chocolates after you’ve messed up is nice, but it is not going to get the same impact as constant small steps to improve your behavior and reveal your partner how much you appreciate them.

Even if your partner does not take your apology straight away, DO NOT GIVE UP. By continuing to show how sorry you are through loving actions, you have the hope of regaining their trust and love. Dua To Get My Husband Back

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Sorry can be the HARDEST thing to say for your spouse — I am certain you all agree!

By saying this, you are admitting that you’ve messed up and have hurt among those people that you love the most. It’s never simple.

But the thing is, we’re all human and we make mistakes. And regrettably, sometimes we make mistakes that really hurt our partners.

When this happens, it’s our job to take responsibility for our actions and apologize, EVEN when your mistake is so BIG you feel like there is nearly “too much” to apologize for.

It’s a fact that the deeper the hurt, the longer the healing process will require.

Continue below to find out what these steps are, and feel free to talk about your own thoughts and experiences at the conclusion. Dua To Get My Husband Back

 

5 Step to Say “I’m Sorry” and Truly Mean It. Dua To Get My Husband Back

 

1. Forgive yourself

You might be thinking something like: “How on earth could I ever forgive myself?” Or “How do an apology start with ME?

But there are numerous reasons why it’s necessary to try to make peace with yourself after you’ve made a mistake.

To start with, dwelling on thoughts that are remorseful and self-loathing will use all of your emotional energy up.

This isn’t going to be helpful for your marriage or you, since it keeps the focus on the issue, rather than what you can do to FIX it. If you can accept the mistake you’ve made, you’ll have the ability to then focus your energy on what you can do to compensate for it.

Allow me to be clear here. By forgiving yourself, you are not clearing yourself of any blame… You freely admit that you’ve made a mistake.

But you’re also acknowledging that the behavior you have done wrong does not mean you’re a bad person as a whole and you have the opportunity to be your best self from now on…

 

 

2. Apologize to your spouse and take full responsibility

When it comes to saying sorry, the sooner the better. However, an apology has to be said with feeling and genuine sincerity to be effective.

So you need the time to calm down before you confer with your partner, take this time. An angry or sarcastic apology is only going to make the situation even more worse.

As difficult as it can, look at your partner’s eyes once you go to apologize to them.

For instance; “I’m so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you had been looking forward to going out and just how disappointed and hurt you must’ve felt when I came home late”.

Last, never never NEVER say “I’m sorry” and follow it up with a “but” or an excuse.

For instance: “I am so sorry I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you were looking forward to heading out and how frustrated and hurt you have to’ve felt when I came home. However, the reason I forgot about dinner is because YOU didn’t remind me this morning. You know I am busy with work and find it hard to keep track of what is going on occasionally”.

This will make your apology meaningless, and also imply that you are BLAMING your spouse — which is just going to push them further away.

So accept full responsibility for your actions… Do not try to reevaluate your error to make yourself feel better (because believe me, it will not work!) And focus only on YOUR actions, not your spouse’s. Dua To Get My Husband Back

 

3. Make promises for the future

Come up with a strategy to ensure your mistake will not be repeated in the future and convey this to your spouse. Make sure any promises you make can be followed upon.

For instance:

“I will have absolutely no further contact with that person. I will delete him/her from my phone, Facebook, Twitter, and will inform you instantly if he/she tries to get in contact with me.

I’m happy to give you access to all of my accounts and my phone if this would be helpful to you|If this would be helpful to you, I’m happy to offer you open access to all of my account and my phone. I promise to keep in communication with you and from now on I will always be at home when I say I will.

I truly want to make this work and will do anything it takes. I will clear my schedule out of work so that I could spend as much time with you as possible — as much time as you’re comfortable with at this time.” Dua To Get My Husband Back

 

4. Accept your spouse’s reaction

A frequent premise that a partner often makes is that as soon as they have apologized, their spouse or spouse should stop being sad or mad and give them forgiveness.

And if this does not happen, the apologizing spouse explodes and says something along the lines of: “I have just apologized! What more to you need me to do?! Why can’t you just accept it and move on?!”

The thing is, you can ask your husband or spouse for their forgiveness, but you can’t FORCE them to forgive you. Whether they do or not is their decision.

So don’t expect anything from your spouse at the moment.

Yes, you’re making yourself vulnerable and yes, it might feel excruciating being met by the silence or angry words of your spouse. This truly is the HARDEST part about saying “I am sorry”.

Therefore avoid acting defensively AT ALL COSTS, despite the fact that this might be your first instinct — since it will only reverse the good you have accomplished by apologizing.

And now is definitely not the time to begin pointing fingers and trying to get back at your spouse for whatever they have done.

All you can do right now, as hard as it is, is give your spouse time to come to terms with your own apology and also see for themselves the adjustments on your own behavior. Forgiveness will come with time. Dua To Get My Husband Back

 

5. Follow your apology up with positive actions

Saying sorry is important, but it is not enough on its own to cure your partner’s harm and move. It is the ACTIONS that follow that really do the majority of the relationship fixing.

Apologies need to be backed up with positive changes in behavior, as otherwise your spouse will lose faith in you and will become more hurt and betrayed consequently.

If you have betrayed your partner in some manner, the secret is to be ABSOLUTELY transparent with your partner in future — do not attempt to hide or cover anything up.

Keep the lines of communication open and be honest about what — where you’re, what you are doing, who you are with, what you’re spending… EVERYTHING.

This may appear over-the-top, but the truth is that your partner is likely to be feeling really vulnerable right now, and their trust in you has been ruined. So in order to their trust to be recovered, you need to leave literally no doubts in their own mind.

And keep in mind, one huge gesture of chocolates and flowers after you have messed up is fine, but it is not going to get exactly the identical effect as continuous small steps to improve your behavior and reveal your spouse how much you appreciate them.

Even if your spouse doesn’t accept your apology straight away, DO NOT GIVE UP. By continuing to demonstrate how sorry you are through loving actions, you have the best hope of regaining their love and trust. Dua To Get My Husband Back

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