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Sorry can be the HARDEST thing to say to your spouse — I am certain you agree!
By saying this, you are admitting that you’ve messed up and have hurt among those people that you love the most. It is never easy.
However, the thing is, we’re all human and we ALL make mistakes. And unfortunately, sometimes we make mistakes which actually hurt our partners.
When this happens, it’s our job apologize and to take responsibility for our actions, EVEN whenever your mistake is so BIG you feel like there’s almost “too much” to apologize for.
It’s a fact that the deeper the hurt, the longer the healing process will take.
Continue below to learn what these steps are, and don’t hesitate to share your own thoughts and experiences at the conclusion. Dua To Get Husband Back Islam
5 Step to Say “I’m Sorry” and Truly Mean It. Dua To Get Husband Back Islam
1. Forgive yourself
You might be thinking something like: “How in the world could I ever forgive myself?” Or “How do an apology begin with ME?”
However there are several reasons why it’s necessary to try to make peace with yourself after you’ve made a mistake.
To start with, dwelling on self-loathing and remorseful thoughts is going to use up all of your emotional energy.
This isn’t going to be useful for you or your marriage, since it keeps the focus on the PROBLEM, rather than what you can do to repair it. If you can accept the mistake you’ve made, you will have the ability to then focus your energy on what you can do to make up for it.
Allow me to be clear here. By forgiving yourself, you are not clearing yourself of any blame… You openly admit that you’ve made a mistake.
But you’re also acknowledging that the behavior you have done wrong does not mean you are a bad person as a whole and you’ve got the opportunity to be your very best self from now on…
2. Apologize to your spouse and take full responsibility
When it comes to stating sorry, the sooner the better. But, an apology has to be said with feeling and genuine sincerity to be effective.
So you need time to calm down until you confer with your partner, take this moment. An angry or sarcastic apology is only going to make the situation even more worse.
As difficult as it is, look into your partner’s eyes once you go to apologize to them.
For instance; “I am so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you were looking forward to going out and how disappointed and hurt you must’ve felt when I came home late”.
Last, never never NEVER say “I am sorry” and follow it up with a “but” or an excuse.
For instance: “I am so sorry I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I understand how much you were looking forward to going out and how frustrated and hurt you have to’ve felt when I arrived home. However, the reason why I forgot about dinner is because YOU didn’t remind me this morning. You know I am busy with work and find it hard to keep track of what is happening sometimes”.
This is going to make your apology meaningless, and even indicate that you’re BLAMING your partner — which is only going to push them farther away.
So take full responsibility for your actions… don’t try to reevaluate your error to make yourself feel better (because believe me, it will not work!) And concentrate just on YOUR actions, not your spouse’s. Dua To Get Husband Back Islam
3. Make promises for the future
Come up with a plan to ensure your mistake won’t be repeated in the future and convey this to your partner. Make sure any promises you make can be followed up on.
“I will have absolutely no further contact with that person. I will delete him/her from my phone, Facebook, Twitter, and also will let you know immediately if he/she tries to get in touch with me.
I am pleased to give you open access to all my account and my phone if that would be helpful to you|If that would be helpful to you, I’m happy to give you access to every one of my accounts and my phone. I promise to keep in communication with you about what I am doing and from now on I will always be at home when I say I will.
I truly wish to make this work and will do anything it takes. I will clear my schedule outside of work so I can spend as much time with you as possible — as much time as you are comfortable with at this time.” Dua To Get Husband Back Islam
4. Accept your spouse’s reaction
A common assumption that a partner frequently makes is that as soon as they’ve apologized, their husband or wife should stop being sad or mad and give forgiveness to them.
And when this does not happen, the apologizing spouse stinks and says something along the lines of: “I have just apologized! What more to you want me to do?! Why can not you just accept it and move on?!”
The thing is, you can ask your husband or wife for their forgiveness, but you can not FORCE them to forgive you. Whether they do or not is their decision.
So don’t expect anything from your spouse at the moment.
Yes, you are making yourself vulnerable and yes, it might feel excruciating being met angry words or by your partner’s silence. This truly is the HARDEST part about saying “I am sorry”.
Therefore avoid acting defensively AT ALL COSTS, despite the fact that this may be your initial instinct — as it will only undo the good you have done by apologizing.
And now is definitely not the time to start pointing fingers and trying to get back at your partner for anything they’ve done.
All you can do right now, as hard as it will be, is give your partner time to come to terms with your own apology and also see for themselves the changes in your own behavior. Forgiveness will come with time. Dua To Get Husband Back Islam
5. Follow your apology up with positive actions
Saying sorry is important, but it is not enough on its own to cure your spouse’s harm and move. It’s the ACTIONS that follow that really do most of the relationship repairing.
Apologies have to be backed up with positive changes in behaviour, as otherwise your spouse will lose faith in you and also will end up more hurt and betrayed consequently.
If you’ve betrayed your partner in some way, the biggest key is to be utterly transparent with your spouse in future — do not attempt to hide or cover anything up.
Keep the lines of communication open and be fair about what — where you are, what you’re doing, that you’re with, what you are spending… EVERYTHING.
This might seem over-the-top, but the simple truth is that your partner is likely to be feeling really vulnerable right now, and their hope in you has been shattered. So in order to their hope to be regained, you have to leave literally zero doubts in their mind.
And remember, one big gesture of flowers and chocolates once you’ve messed up is fine, but it’s not going to get exactly the identical effect as continuous small actions to improve your behaviour and reveal your spouse how much you appreciate them.
Even if your spouse doesn’t accept your apology straight away, DO NOT GIVE UP. By continuing to demonstrate how sorry you’re through loving actions, you have the hope of regaining their trust and love. Dua To Get Husband Back Islam