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Sorry can be the HARDEST thing to say for your spouse — I am sure you all agree!

By saying this, you’re admitting that you have messed up and have hurt one of those people you love the most. It is never simple.

However, the thing is, we are all human and most of us make mistakes. And regrettably, sometimes we make mistakes which really hurt our partners.

When this occurs, it is our job apologize and to take responsibility, EVEN whenever your mistake is so BIG you really feel like there’s nearly “too much” to apologize for.

It’s a fact that the deeper the hurt, the longer the healing process will require.

Continue below to learn what these steps are, and feel free to share experiences and your own thoughts in the end. Dua To Get Back Husband Love

 

5 Step to Say “I’m Sorry” and Truly Mean It. Dua To Get Back Husband Love

 

1. Forgive yourself

You might be thinking something like: “How on earth could I ever forgive myself?” Or “How can an apology begin with ME?

But there are several reasons why it’s necessary to attempt to make peace with yourself after you have made a mistake.

To start with, dwelling on thoughts that are remorseful and self-loathing will use up all of your emotional energy.

This isn’t going to be helpful for your marriage or you, as it keeps the focus on the issue, rather than what you can do to repair it. If you can accept the mistake you’ve made, you will be able to focus your energy on what you can do to compensate for it.

Allow me to be clear here. By forgiving yourself, you are not clearing yourself of any blame… You freely admit that you’ve made a mistake.

But you’re also acknowledging that the behaviour you’ve done wrong does not mean you’re a terrible person as a whole and you have the chance to be your best self from now on…

 

 

2. Apologize to your spouse and take full responsibility

In regards to stating sorry, the sooner the better. However, an apology needs to be said with genuine sincerity and feeling to be effective.

So you will need time to calm down before you apologize to your partner, take this time. An sarcastic or angry apology will make the situation even more worse.

As hard as it can, look into your spouse’s eyes once you go to confer with them.

For example; “I am so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I understand how much you were looking forward to going out and how disappointed and hurt you must’ve felt when I came home late”.

Last, never never NEVER say “I’m sorry” and follow it up with a “but” or an excuse.

For example: “I’m so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you had been looking forward to heading out and how frustrated and hurt you have to’ve felt when I came home. However, the reason why I forgot about dinner is because YOU did not remind me this afternoon. You know I am busy with work and find it difficult to keep track of what is happening occasionally”.

This is going to make your apology meaningless, and even imply that you are BLAMING your spouse — that is just going to push them farther away.

So take full responsibility for the actions… Do not try to downplay your mistake to make yourself feel better (because believe me, it won’t work!) And focus just on YOUR actions, not your spouse’s. Dua To Get Back Husband Love

 

3. Make promises for the future

Come up with a strategy to ensure your mistake will not be repeated in the future and convey this to your partner. Make sure any promises you make can be followed up on.

For instance:

“I will have absolutely no further contact with that person. I will delete him/her from my phone, Facebook, Twitter, and also will let you know instantly if he/she tries to get in contact with me.

I am happy to give you access to all my accounts and my telephone if this would be helpful to you|If that would be helpful to you, I’m happy to offer you open access to every one of my accounts and my telephone. I promise to keep in regular communication with you and from today on I will always be at home when I say I will.

I really want to make this work and will do anything it takes. I can clear my schedule outside of work so I can spend as much time with you as possible — as much time as you are comfortable with at this time.” Dua To Get Back Husband Love

 

4. Accept your spouse’s reaction

A frequent assumption that a spouse frequently makes is that as soon as they have apologized, their husband or wife should stop being mad or sad and give them forgiveness.

And when this does not happen, the apologizing spouse stinks and says something along the lines of: “I’ve just apologized! What more to you want me to do?! Why can not you just accept it and move on?!”

The thing is, you can ask your husband or wife for their forgiveness, but you can not FORCE them to forgive you. Whether they do or not is their decision.

Therefore don’t expect anything from your partner right now.

It’s true, you are making yourself vulnerable and yes, it might feel excruciating being fulfilled angry words or by your spouse’s silence. This truly is the HARDEST part about saying “I am sorry”.

Therefore avoid acting defensively AT ALL COSTS, even though this may be your first instinct — since it will reverse the good you have just done by apologizing.

And now is definitely not the time to start pointing fingers and trying to get back in your spouse for whatever they have done.

All you can do now, as hard as it will be, is give your partner time to come to terms with your apology and also see for themselves the adjustments in your behavior. Forgiveness will come with time. Dua To Get Back Husband Love

 

5. Follow your apology up with positive actions

Saying sorry is vital, but it is not enough on its own to heal your partner’s harm and move forward. It’s the ACTIONS that follow which really do most of the relationship fixing.

Apologies need to be backed up with positive changes in behaviour, as otherwise your spouse will lose faith in you and also will end up more hurt and betrayed as a result.

If you’ve betrayed your partner in some manner, the biggest secret is to be utterly transparent with your spouse in future — don’t attempt to hide or cover anything up.

Keep the lines of communication open and be fair about everything — where you’re, what you’re doing, who you are with, what you are spending… EVERYTHING.

This may seem over-the-top, but the simple truth is that your spouse is likely to be feeling really vulnerable at the moment, and their hope in you has been shattered. So in order for their hope to be regained, you need to leave literally no doubts in their own mind.

And keep in mind, one big gesture of flowers and chocolates after you have messed up is nice, but it’s not going to have exactly the identical impact as continuous small steps to improve your behavior and reveal your spouse how much you appreciate them.

Even if your spouse doesn’t accept your apology straight away, DO NOT GIVE UP. By continuing to show how sorry you are through loving actions, you have the hope of regaining their trust and love. Dua To Get Back Husband Love

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Dua To Get Back Husband Love

Sorry can be the HARDEST thing to say to your spouse — I am sure you all agree!

By saying so, you’re admitting that you have messed up and have hurt among the people you love the most. It is never easy.

However, the thing is, we are all human and we make mistakes. And regrettably, sometimes we make mistakes which really hurt our partners.

When this happens, it’s our job to take responsibility for our actions and apologize, EVEN when your mistake is so BIG you feel like there’s nearly “too much” to apologize for.

It’s true that the deeper the hurt, the longer the healing process will take.

Continue below to find out what these steps are, and feel free to talk about experiences and your own thoughts at the end. Dua To Get Back Husband Love

 

5 Step to Say “I’m Sorry” and Really Mean It. Dua To Get Back Husband Love

 

1. Forgive yourself

You might be thinking something like: “How in the world can I ever forgive myself?” Or “How can an apology start with ME?

But there are several reasons why it is necessary to attempt to make peace with yourself once you have made a mistake.

First of all, dwelling on remorseful and self-loathing thoughts will use all of your emotional energy up.

This is NOT going to be useful for you or your marriage, as it keeps the focus on the issue, rather than what you can do to repair it. If you can accept the mistake you’ve made, you’ll be able to focus your energy on what you can do in order to compensate for it.

Allow me to be clear here. By forgiving yourself, you are not clearing yourself of any blame… You freely admit that you have made a mistake.

However, you are also acknowledging that the behaviour you’ve done wrong does not mean you’re a bad person as a whole and you have the chance to be your very best self from now on…

 

 

2. Apologize to your partner and accept full responsibility

When it comes to saying sorry, the earlier the better. But, an apology needs to be said with genuine sincerity and feeling to be effective.

So you will need the time before you confer with your partner, take this moment to calm down. An sarcastic or angry apology will make the situation even more worse.

As hard as it is, look into your partner’s eyes when you go to confer with them.

For example; “I am so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you had been looking forward to going out and how disappointed and hurt you have felt when I came home late”.

Lastly, never never NEVER say “I am sorry” and follow it up with a “but” or an excuse.

For example: “I’m so sorry that I forgot we had plans for dinner tonight. I know how much you had been looking forward to heading out and how disappointed and hurt you must’ve felt when I came home late. However, the reason I forgot about dinner is because YOU did not remind me this afternoon. You know I am busy with work and find it difficult to keep track of what is happening sometimes”.

This will make your apology meaningless, and even indicate that you are BLAMING your spouse — which is only going to push them farther away.

So accept full responsibility for your actions… don’t attempt to downplay your mistake to make yourself feel better (because believe me, it will not work!) And concentrate only on YOUR actions, not your spouse’s. Dua To Get Back Husband Love

 

3. Make promises for the future

Come up with a strategy to make certain your mistake won’t be repeated in the future and convey this to your spouse. Make sure any promises you make could be followed upon.

For example:

“I will have absolutely no further contact with that person. I will delete him/her from my phone, Facebook, Twitter, and also will let you know instantly if he/she ever tries to get in touch with me.

I’m pleased to give you open access to all my account and my telephone if this would be helpful to you|If that would be helpful to you, I’m pleased to offer you open access to all my accounts and my telephone. I promise to keep in communication with you about what I am doing and from now on I will always be at home when I say I will.

I truly wish to make this work and will do whatever is needed. I can clear my schedule out of work so I could spend as much time with you as possible — as much time as you are comfortable with at this time.” Dua To Get Back Husband Love

 

4. Accept your spouse’s reaction

A common assumption that a spouse often makes is that as soon as they have apologized, wife or their husband should stop being sad or angry and give forgiveness to them.

And when this doesn’t happen, the apologizing spouse explodes and says something along the lines of: “I’ve just apologized! What more to you want me to do?! Why can not you just accept it and move on?!”

The thing is, you can ask your husband or spouse for their forgiveness, but you can not FORCE them to forgive you. Whether they do or not is their decision.

So don’t expect anything from your spouse at the moment.

It’s true, you’re making yourself vulnerable and yes, it might feel excruciating being met by your spouse’s silence or angry words. This truly is the HARDEST part about saying “I am sorry”.

Therefore avoid acting defensively AT ALL COSTS, even though this may be your initial instinct — as it is only going to undo the good you have just done by apologizing.

And now is certainly not the time to begin pointing fingers and trying to get back at your spouse for whatever they’ve done.

All you can do right now, as hard as it will be, is give your partner time to come to terms with your apology and see for themselves that the adjustments on your behaviour. Forgiveness will come with time. Dua To Get Back Husband Love

 

5. Follow your apology up with positive actions

Saying sorry is vital, but it isn’t sufficient on its own to heal your spouse’s hurt and move forward. It’s the ACTIONS that follow that actually do the majority of the relationship repairing.

Apologies have to be backed up with positive changes in behaviour, as otherwise your partner will eliminate faith in you and also will become more hurt and betrayed as a result.

If you have betrayed your spouse in some way, the key is to be utterly transparent with your partner in future — don’t try to hide or cover up anything.

Keep the lines of communication open and be fair about everything — where you are, what you’re doing, that you’re with, what you are spending… EVERYTHING.

This may seem counter-intuitive, however, the simple truth is that your partner is likely to be feeling very vulnerable at the moment, and their hope in you has been shattered. So in order for their hope to be regained, you need to leave literally no doubts in their mind.

And keep in mind, one big gesture of flowers and chocolates once you’ve messed up is fine, but it is not likely to have the same effect as continuous small steps to improve your behavior and show your spouse how much you appreciate them.

Even if your spouse doesn’t accept your apology straight away, DO NOT GIVE UP. By continuing to show how sorry you’re through loving actions, you have the best hope of regaining their love and trust. Dua To Get Back Husband Love

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